2 Birthdays

Elliot is telling everyone that he had 2 birthdays. One at school (on the actual day) and one at Chuck E Cheese. We just had a low key party because we had the mother of all birthday bash's last year. We went to Chuck E. Cheese, invited Elliot's bff and his family, got a pizza and some game tokens and had a great time!

Thanks for the drums Gabe!

Man oh man I love this boy :)

3 Weeks

I love where I live.

These are really bad pics, I took them with my phone while I was running.

I love that I live within blocks of this. It makes for nice running.

I have heard that it takes 3 weeks to make or break a habit. Yesterday it was exactly 3 weeks since Ray and I quit drinking caffeine. I feel great! I'd be lying if I said I don't miss it at all, but I don't want my body to by physically dependent on anything except food and water ever again. I think it is official. Bad habit broken!

I ran 7 miles this morning in an hour and 15 minutes. There were hills, lots of them. I didn't stop, just sayin'. I realized that when you run up a bunch of big hills, the rest of the run feels like a cake walk. I ran 6 miles last week, but this week was much easier, even with the hills. I think the carb loading last night helped. I didn't go crazy, just ate a big plate of pad thai ;)

One By One

I've been thinking about this post for a long time. I know what I want to say, but I have a hard time properly putting it into words. This past Saturday Ray and I went to the adult session of our bi-annual stake conference. I haven't ever gone to a Saturday evening session because I have 4 kids to take care of, but this particular evening 2 women from my ward were speaking so I got a babysitter. I'm so glad that I did.

The meeting began with a member of the stake presidency speaking to us about how we need to record those instances where we see and feel the Lord's hand in our life in small but significant ways. This happens to all of us, but if we aren't paying attention we may not notice it. I have heard this advice given several times in the last few months...must be important.

Next they had 4 members of the stake speak to us about how they have seen God's hand in their lives. All of these members have had major struggles in their lives. The first man spoke about his struggles with gambling and substance abuse before he became a member of the church. There was mother with 3 young children whose husband is currently deployed to Afghanistan. There was a man who had lost several people close to him. Last was a young woman who spent a couple of years in prison at a very young age for her part in a fatal car accident. They all spoke about how God carried them through these experiences, how the Atonement of Jesus Christ has personally touched their lives.

After these talks the stake president got up and taught us about the 6 times in the scriptures where the phrase "one by one" is mentioned. He read a scripture from the Book of Mormon, 3rd Nephi 11:15 "And it came to pass that the multitude went forth and thrust their hands into his side, and did feel the prints of the nails in his hands and in his feet; and this they did do, going forth one by one until they had all gone forth, and did see with their eyes and did feel with their hands, and did know of a surety and did bear record, that it was he, of whom it was written by the prophets, that should come". After he read this scripture he asked the audience to share times in their lives when they had the opportunity to feel the Saviors wounds, to partake of the atonement personally in their lives. Many people in the audience shared very personal stories of their experience with the salvation that the Atonement offers each and every one of us. Many of these stories were heartwrenching, but the eternal principles gained from their encounter with the Savior left us all hopeful.

The Spirit was palpable in the room. It is so hard to put into words. It was an amazing feeling that I wish I could replicate each and every day. I could feel God's love for me. We all felt it. God was there administering to his children. One of my dad's favorite scriptures comes from the Book of Mormon, Mosiah 18:21, "And he commanded them that there should be no contention one with another, but that they should look forward with one eye, having one faith and one baptism, having their hearts knit together in unity and in love one towards another." This is how I felt, that we all had our hearts knit together in unity and love. I felt so much love and compassion for all of my brothers and sisters in the Gospel. The Spirit bore witness to me of the incredible love that the Savior has for each and every one of us, of the incredibly personal level on which he know each of us.

I have been thinking about this all week. I have been pondering the times in my life where I have felt the Saviors wounds, where I have been taught about the Atonement. I have been thinking a lot about the time when I was first coming back to church after several years of inactivity. I won't go into all the details of why I left, but I have said before that although I don't think ever doubted the truthfulness of the church, I just felt like there wasn't really a place for me in it. When I was first going back to church my testimony was so fragile, but I wanted it to be strong. I prayed so hard for my faith to grow, for that knowledge to come back to me. I often felt like my prayers were not being answered. But even though my testimony was weak I had a burning desire to make it strong. I was trying to live in a way that would be pleasing to God.

During this time I was working as a social worker for child protection services. An 18 month old little boy on my caseload was in a pre-adoptive placement with an LDS family. He tragically drowned at a family reunion. The LDS foster family arranged the funeral. I attended the funeral and it was so uplifting, so hopeful. However, his biological mother was there and she was completely beside herself. I tried to comfort her but she was beyond comfort. She believed that she would never see her son again. As I observed all of this happening and saw the dichotomy between the bio-mom and the foster family, the Spirit spoke to me about eternal families. It was like He was whispering in my ear, teaching me about the eternal nature of families. When this happened I felt wrapped in the arms of the Savior. I felt his love so strongly. I knew it was an answer to prayer. I felt those tender mercies of my Father in Heaven surrounding me and I knew then 3 things.

1- The family is eternal and we can be together forever.

2- If you try to be obedient and your desires are righteous the doors to heaven will always be open.

3- There IS a place for me.

Since that time there have been probably thousands of opportunities for me to feel the wounds of the Savior. Some big, most small. I am so grateful for this knowledge that I have. I have a newfound desire to progress, to continue to feel His love every day.

Ole, Ole, Ole, Ole!

For Christmas I got Ray a ticket to the Fiesta Bowl. Back in 2007 when the Broncos played in the Fiesta Bowl Ray wanted to go SOOO bad, but we just couldn't swing it. So this time, when I found out my mom, dad, sister, brothers-in-law, and grandma (that's right) were going I just knew I had to work it out. Ray had the time of his life!

Outside the stadium, how cool is my grandma??

They made signs,

Grandma helped,

They mingled with the fans,

They had amazing seats on the 14th row, 40 yard line,

They were surrounded by the Bronco nation,

And the best part?? THEY WON!!

Seriously, how cool of a wife am I???

Look Mom!

I lost another tooth!

The Anatomy of a Name

Yep, that is me...and you wonder why I'm addicted to soda!!

Names are a tricky thing. I take them very seriously. I really feel like each name I have given to my children has truly "fit" them. Sometimes I think about other names that were in the running and think, "wow, that name totally doesn't fit her". I also don't believe in nicknames. If you give someone a name, that is what they should go by, don't you think? Sometimes Ray calls Elliot "Eli", mostly just because he knows it bugs me. I like the name Eli, but if I wanted my son to be called Eli, that is what I would've named him. Anyway, I know a lot of people don't agree with me, and that is fine....I know I'm right (kidding :) ).

So, my whole life I have been called Becky, but my name is Rebecca. Don't get me wrong, I like the name Becky, but I love the name Rebecca. If you had the choice, wouldn't you want to be known as a Rebecca? Seriously?! I have always wished that I could go by Rebecca. I have even tried to switch a time or two. I have yet to be successful, mostly because I was too wishy washy when people who knew me as "Becky" would ask me what I really wanted to be called. The people pleaser in me would say "Oh, whatever you want", while I was really thinking "REBECCA"!! And I wouldn't correct people when they called me Becky.

You may be asking yourself the question, "So why didn't you switch with one of your many moves?" Good question, I've asked myself the same thing many times. Kicked myself many times. Here's the thing. I love my given name, but when people call me by it, it feels weird. A 34 year habit is hard to break. It feels formal and distant, like they don't really know me. Except for Ray, who calls me Rebecca all the time. I've stopped trying to figure out my brain. But, I think after a couple uncomfortable months I, and everyone else, would get used to it. And then I could be Rebecca.

So, a few months ago I was having this discussion with my visiting teacher who has successfully transitioned from Becky to Rebecca. She told me that she was going to spread the word that I wanted to make the change. So she did. And people started asking me what I wanted to be called. And I said, "Oh, whatever you want, either way is fine". What is wrong with me?? But the last few weeks something in me has changed. I feel like it's time for a rebirth. I'm done having kids, I am realizing that I can reach goals that I never thought I would (I'm gong to run a marathon, for pete's sake!!), I feel like a new chapter of my life has begun, and I'm now feeling like I am ready to say, "you know, I really prefer Rebecca". (It doesn't sound that mean, does it?) I realize that my family may never completely be on board, and that's okay. But, soon I will be Rebecca.

5 Years Ago

5 years ago today I became a mom for the second time. Elliot Towner was born.

By far the easiest labor and delivery of all, even though he was the biggest of all! I was induced on his due date, and about 4 hours later he was born. He was a big boy!!

And he turned out to be such a good baby. I was a little nervous because Grace had been a fussy baby, and they were only 21 months apart. Turns out I had nothing to worry about. Elliot was so calm and happy. Such a blessing.

Grace instantly fell in love and turned into a little mommy to her baby brother. He loved his pacifier from day 1...3 years down the road I wasn't so grateful for it, but he just loved it so much!

He soon earned the nickname "Mr. Chubbsie", and it stuck. We still call him that today, even though he is far from chubby now!

Sweet baby boy...where has the time gone? We love you SO MUCH!

Happy Birthday, Elliot!